The 8 Best Stones for Grief and How to Use Them to Heal Your Soul After Loss
Coping with loss is never easy, but the grief can feel overwhelming and all-consuming. In the last year we have all faced loss, whether it was the death of a loved one, the loss of a job or project, or even the passing away of life that we were leading. Loss and grief manifest in many forms and we rarely come out of this battle the same way we entered it. Grief is messy and there is no straight line to get through it. And even if you feel like the pain is too much to bear, there are small ways to help shift or ease the overwhelming energy that comes with loss.
Stones are not a magic wand that can make pain go away, but they can provide a gentle source of comfort and healing vibrations to help you through this time. Different gemstones have different powers, some can bring gentle compassion, others inner strength, but all will work towards the same goal - helping you cope with loss and move into gentle acceptance. It is said that you never completely move on from grief, but you learn to master it over time. Take a look at these stones for grief and we hope they can bring you comfort...
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MOURNING Bracelet, Healing and Support for the Soul
Grief is an ordeal that each of us goes through at one point or another in our lives. It is a painful process, but with the right support, it is possible to find inner peace and heal.
Composed of Pyrite, Smoky Quartz and Moonstone , the "Mourning Bracelet" was designed specifically to accompany you in this quest for healing.
What are the stages of grief?
The major themes of loss and mourning are often approached in stages. This may seem trite, but time is a great healer and going through these stages takes time and patience with yourself as you process all of these emotions. As we mentioned, grief is not just for physical death, it can be spiritual loss, emotional loss, or even a change in circumstances which can also result in loss . Although we have outlined the five stages of grief below, remember that it is not a straight line through them and that tangled emotions rarely fit into neat packages. Have courage, patience and remember to breathe deeply.
Step One: Denial
Although expected, the initial stage of loss may be too overwhelming to deal with at first. We can then move into denial, a common defense mechanism that helps us remain numb while we process things at our own pace.
Second stage: anger
The way out of denial and these painful, overwhelming feelings can take the form of anger. This anger can be directed at the loss or whatever is in your way, it is a big wild emotion and it is part of the masking process.
Step 3: Negotiation
Squeamishness and helplessness can set in during the negotiation phase and you begin to look at all the details and make "what if" statements. You can try to stay stuck in the past, forcing a different outcome, and imagining all the things that could be different.
Stage 4: Depression
When we move into the present space, this flood of feelings can leave us feeling exhausted and empty or completely confused. You may completely shut down and wonder what your life will be like now.
Step 5: Acceptance
Acceptance is not always the end point of this difficult and sometimes life-defining journey. You may go back and forth through the other stages even if you have accepted loss in your life. Acceptance isn't always a happy ending either. But she can be a little light at the end of a dark tunnel. It means you are in treatment and there is hope or a way forward.
8 powerful stones that help overcome grief or loss
Big energies and bright colors of joy have their time and place, but for many people dealing with layers of grief, they need crystal clear energy that brings gentle healing, evens out these massive emotions and makes you feel comforted and cared for. The stones we have chosen are there to keep you grounded, as balanced as possible, as well rested as possible, and to provide you with a glimmer of light that will not go out.
- Carnelian to balance high energies.
- Rose Quartz for self-compassion.
- Rhodonite for gentle acceptance.
- Moonstone to deal with cycles of change.
- Pyrite for protection against exhaustion of the adrenal glands.
- Amethyst is a natural tranquilizer.
- Smoky quartz to stay grounded.
- Lepidolite to release suffering.
Detailed exploration of the stones
Carnelian
What it looks like: Like a comet crossing the sky, this fireball is all red and orange energy.
What it does: Although its bright glow may not seem appropriate for the heavy cloud overhead, carnelian can be an excellent healing stone for those going through the stages of grief. Comforting and warm, carnelian is a flame that can chase away demons. This stone is exceptionally good at helping to balance energy and makes us feel supported, secure and strong enough to bear weight. It is a stone that is also connected to the spirit world, meaning that those feelings of loss and fear are not so heavy to carry when we share them with our ancestors.
Learn more about the meaning of carnelian.
Rose Quartz
What it looks like: It may be soft and rosy, but there is great strength to be found in this shimmering heart chakra stone.
What he does : Instantly calming in its gentle shades of pink, rose quartz is one of the gentlest heart chakra healers you could hope for. A true stone of love with high vibrations, rose quartz helps develop feelings of compassion and calm. There is something reassuring about having rose quartz close to you when going through the stages of grief. It can be especially helpful during the negotiation phase, when all those feelings of guilt and self-blame can flood your soul. Here, rose quartz gently reminds you to be kind to yourself.
Learn more about the meaning of rose quartz.
Rhodonite
What it looks like: When the Russians discovered rhodonite in the Ural Mountains, they called it "eagle stone" because they noticed that eagles placed these stones in their nests. Before long, they began putting eagle stone in babies' cradles to give them strength and protection. Soon after, travelers wore the protective stone to know when danger was approaching. Russia declared it a national stone in 1913.
What he does : Just like the rose it is named after, rhodonite is another soft pink heart stone that can help you process shock and panic without flailing around blindly. Rhodonite is rich in self-love and excellent for helping you heal old wounds. She doesn't just patch up the pain, but guides you through the process of purifying the heart and activating the love you need to get through this. Over time, rhodonite helps you let go of emotions that no longer serve you and move toward a place of gentle acceptance.
Learn more about the meaning of rhodonite.
Moonstone
What it looks like: Nothing matches the feminine strength of Grandma's moon, hanging full and heavy, pale and bright in the sky.
What she does : Moonstone is a magical stone to welcome new beginnings. Just like the moon that shines overhead to always illuminate the darkness, moonstone is a reminder of the cyclical nature of our world and reminds us not to fear the changing tides.
Moonstone is a powerful stone for mourning. It helps you connect to the healing and nurturing energies of the divine feminine.
This opalescent beauty will guide you toward the light, no matter what color moonstone you choose. It will restore your self-confidence and bring balance to your energy system.
Once you have reached the stage of acceptance, moonstone grounds the vibration of inner peace into your energy. It helps you connect to the cosmic energies of the divine and to your higher consciousness. You will emerge from your suffering as a stronger and wiser version of yourself.
Learn more about the meaning of moonstone.
