The 8 Best Stones for Grief and How to Use Them to Heal Your Soul After Loss
Coping with loss is never easy, but the grief can feel overwhelming and all-consuming. In the last year we have all faced loss, whether it was the death of a loved one, the loss of a job or project, or even the passing away of life that we were leading. Loss and grief manifest in many forms and we rarely come out of this battle the same way we entered it. Grief is messy and there is no straight line to get through it. And even if you feel like the pain is too much to bear, there are small ways to help shift or ease the overwhelming energy that comes with loss.
Stones are not a magic wand that can make pain go away, but they can provide a gentle source of comfort and healing vibrations to help you through this time. Different gemstones have different powers, some can bring gentle compassion, others inner strength, but all will work towards the same goal - helping you cope with loss and move into gentle acceptance. It is said that you never completely move on from grief, but you learn to master it over time. Take a look at these stones for grief and we hope they can bring you comfort...
My “Magic Formula”
MOURNING Bracelet, Healing and Support for the Soul
Grief is an ordeal that each of us goes through at one point or another in our lives. It is a painful process, but with the right support, it is possible to find inner peace and heal.
Composed of Pyrite, Smoky Quartz and Moonstone , the "Mourning Bracelet" was designed specifically to accompany you in this quest for healing.
What are the stages of grief?
The major themes of loss and mourning are often approached in stages. This may seem trite, but time is a great healer and going through these stages takes time and patience with yourself as you process all of these emotions. As we mentioned, grief is not just for physical death, it can be spiritual loss, emotional loss, or even a change in circumstances which can also result in loss . Although we have outlined the five stages of grief below, remember that it is not a straight line through them and that tangled emotions rarely fit into neat packages. Have courage, patience and remember to breathe deeply.
Step One: Denial
Although expected, the initial stage of loss may be too overwhelming to deal with at first. We can then move into denial, a common defense mechanism that helps us remain numb while we process things at our own pace.
Second stage: anger
The way out of denial and these painful, overwhelming feelings can take the form of anger. This anger can be directed at the loss or whatever is in your way, it is a big wild emotion and it is part of the masking process.
Step 3: Negotiation
Squeamishness and helplessness can set in during the negotiation phase and you begin to look at all the details and make "what if" statements. You can try to stay stuck in the past, forcing a different outcome, and imagining all the things that could be different.
Stage 4: Depression
When we move into the present space, this flood of feelings can leave us feeling exhausted and empty or completely confused. You may completely shut down and wonder what your life will be like now.
Step 5: Acceptance
Acceptance is not always the end point of this difficult and sometimes life-defining journey. You may go back and forth through the other stages even if you have accepted loss in your life. Acceptance isn't always a happy ending either. But she can be a little light at the end of a dark tunnel. It means you are in treatment and there is hope or a way forward.
8 powerful stones that help overcome grief or loss
Big energies and bright colors of joy have their time and place, but for many people dealing with layers of grief, they need crystal clear energy that brings gentle healing, evens out these massive emotions and makes you feel comforted and cared for. The stones we have chosen are there to keep you grounded, as balanced as possible, as well rested as possible, and to provide you with a glimmer of light that will not go out.
- Carnelian to balance high energies.
- Rose Quartz for self-compassion.
- Rhodonite for gentle acceptance.
- Moonstone to deal with cycles of change.
- Pyrite for protection against exhaustion of the adrenal glands.
- Amethyst is a natural tranquilizer.
- Smoky quartz to stay grounded.
- Lepidolite to release suffering.
Detailed exploration of the stones
Carnelian
What it looks like: Like a comet crossing the sky, this fireball is all red and orange energy.
What it does: Although its bright glow may not seem appropriate for the heavy cloud overhead, carnelian can be an excellent healing stone for those going through the stages of grief. Comforting and warm, carnelian is a flame that can chase away demons. This stone is exceptionally good at helping to balance energy and makes us feel supported, secure and strong enough to bear weight. It is a stone that is also connected to the spirit world, meaning that those feelings of loss and fear are not so heavy to carry when we share them with our ancestors.
Learn more about the meaning of carnelian.
Rose Quartz
What it looks like: It may be soft and rosy, but there is great strength to be found in this shimmering heart chakra stone.
What he does : Instantly calming in its gentle shades of pink, rose quartz is one of the gentlest heart chakra healers you could hope for. A true stone of love with high vibrations, rose quartz helps develop feelings of compassion and calm. There is something reassuring about having rose quartz close to you when going through the stages of grief. It can be especially helpful during the negotiation phase, when all those feelings of guilt and self-blame can flood your soul. Here, rose quartz gently reminds you to be kind to yourself.
Learn more about the meaning of rose quartz.
Rhodonite
What it looks like: When the Russians discovered rhodonite in the Ural Mountains, they called it "eagle stone" because they noticed that eagles placed these stones in their nests. Before long, they began putting eagle stone in babies' cradles to give them strength and protection. Soon after, travelers wore the protective stone to know when danger was approaching. Russia declared it a national stone in 1913.
What he does : Just like the rose it is named after, rhodonite is another soft pink heart stone that can help you process shock and panic without flailing around blindly. Rhodonite is rich in self-love and excellent for helping you heal old wounds. She doesn't just patch up the pain, but guides you through the process of purifying the heart and activating the love you need to get through this. Over time, rhodonite helps you let go of emotions that no longer serve you and move toward a place of gentle acceptance.
Learn more about the meaning of rhodonite.
Moonstone
What it looks like: Nothing matches the feminine strength of Grandma's moon, hanging full and heavy, pale and bright in the sky.
What she does : Moonstone is a magical stone to welcome new beginnings. Just like the moon that shines overhead to always illuminate the darkness, moonstone is a reminder of the cyclical nature of our world and reminds us not to fear the changing tides.
Moonstone is a powerful stone for mourning. It helps you connect to the healing and nurturing energies of the divine feminine.
This opalescent beauty will guide you toward the light, no matter what color moonstone you choose. It will restore your self-confidence and bring balance to your energy system.
Once you have reached the stage of acceptance, moonstone grounds the vibration of inner peace into your energy. It helps you connect to the cosmic energies of the divine and to your higher consciousness. You will emerge from your suffering as a stronger and wiser version of yourself.
Learn more about the meaning of moonstone.
Pyrite
What it looks like: Pyrite is called "Fool's Gold" because it looks like gold to the untrained eye. Although pyrite has a coppery yellow color and metallic luster similar to gold, it is fragile and breaks rather than bending like gold. Gold leaves a yellow trace, while pyrite leaves a brownish-black trace.
What it does: It's important to keep adrenal exhaustion at bay during the grieving process. When all of these heavy emotions are stirred up, it's very easy to get overwhelmed, and this can lead to increased anxiety which, in turn, can lead to adrenal exhaustion. Having the fiery energy of pyrite nearby can help. This nugget of fool's gold can absorb excess energy and connect to your solar plexus to bring balance and respite that leads to emotional healing.
Learn more about the meaning of pyrite.
Amethyst
What she looks like : Deep crimson and as mystical as mythology suggests, it's no wonder this wine-colored stone was a favorite of the ancient world.
What it does: Always spiritual and serene, amethyst is a natural tranquilizer that can calm the mind, soothe the body and soften the soul. For those times when you feel completely overwhelmed or lost in the forest of feelings, this brain stone can bring you back to your heart and keep you there. Amethyst is an emotional comfort, especially when feelings are too strong to bear. It calms anger, releases rage, soothes anxiety and can also help you sleep at night.
Learn more about the meaning of amethyst.
Smoky Quartz
What it looks like: This beautiful variety of mineral quartz gets its color from its proximity to natural sources of radiation, such as radioactive minerals. Coloring can also be produced artificially through the process of irradiation.
What it does: For those who are grieving or dealing with a loss, they can often feel as if they are detached and being carried away by a great wind. This is where smoky quartz can help. Smoky Quartz has strong grounding properties and can help you feel grounded and stable, even when your emotions seek to knock you off your feet. It can be comforting to know that this quartz can be an anchor and help you process your feelings. From the initial anger that arises to the deep breath of acceptance, Smoky Quartz brings intuition and promotes healthy action throughout the journey. Smoky quartz is also a good help for depression because it helps transform negative energy into positive energy.
Learn more about the meaning of Smoky Quartz.
Lepidolite
What it looks like: Lepidolite is a phyllosilicate mineral from the micas group. It was first called Lilalite because of its lavender color. It comes in shades of lilac and pink and even purple-gray. It is often found in small scaly aggregates and is known for its high lithium content. The meaning of Lepidolite is said to help with emotional balance and inner peace.
What it does: Also known as a transitional stone, lepidolite is a lullaby with its soft purple and pink hues and lithium-rich energy. For those who feel like they're constantly banging underwater, lepidolite can give you a reprieve with its calming influence. Far from simply tempering the senses, lepidolite gently invites you to do the work you need to do when you are going through grief. She invites you to free yourself from trauma and suffering and move towards a deeper place of healing on this long and complicated path. Learn more about the meaning of lepidolite.
Learn more about the meaning of lepidolite.
How to Use These Gemstones to Cope with Grief and Loss of a Loved One
There is no shortcut to getting through the gray areas of the grieving process, you will take the time you need for you and you alone. This does not mean that support is not available, whether it is talking to someone, practicing self-care and patience, or sitting in quiet meditation with these stones precious healing. Here are some ideas to help you connect with these stones and promote healing...
- Wear gemstone jewelry and be comforted by the stone against your skin. This will also send healing vibrations directly to the heart or any other chakra that is requesting support.
- Place one of the calming gemstones under your pillow to bring good rest and relief from sleepless nights and negative feelings.
- Hold a Worry Stone in your hand whenever you feel the waves of emotion and let the crystal bring you back down from the ledge.
- Meditate with the crystal or place it on the chakra that needs healing to help you. For example, people who feel the acute pain of heartbreak can place an unconditional love stone on their heart chakra. Those who need to use their intuition to get through this ordeal can place one of these stones on their forehead to access the third eye, etc.
Other healing stones that can help in times of grief include Apache tears, obsidian, aquamarine, calcite, agate, chrysocolla, lapis lazuli, malachite, angelite, rhodochrosite and tourmaline.
Conclusion
Grief can seem endless, and in the darkest times, we really need to find the goodness and some form of strength hidden deep within us. Time will help heal these raw wounds, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't find a sense of sweetness along the way. We hope that these stones will help you find comfort and a loving energy that will keep you afloat and allow you to connect to the promise of returning some form of inner peace on the path through these difficult times.
If you feel compelled to share your experiences or your favorite stone that you turn to in difficult times, we would love to hear from you.
My “Magic Ritual”
MOURNING Bracelet, Healing and Support for the Soul
Preparation :
- Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed.
- Light a white candle to symbolize purity, peace and healing.
- Sit comfortably, close your eyes and take three deep breaths to center yourself.
Ritual steps:
- Hold your “Mourning Bracelet” in the palm of your left hand (or right hand if you are left-handed).
- Visualize white light enveloping your body, protecting you and bringing you peace.
- Repeat the following affirmation out loud or in your mind, three times:
"With every beat of my heart, I heal. These stones accompany me, support me and help me find inner peace. I am strong, I am resilient and I am loved. " - Take a moment to feel the energy of the stones and let the affirmation permeate your being.
- Finally, put the bracelet on your wrist, visualizing its protective and healing energy enveloping you throughout the day.
Fence :
- Express your gratitude to the stones for their support and energy.
- Snuff out the candle and return to your daily activities, knowing that you are supported and protected.
